Parenting without Violence: Okyeame Kwame’s Approach to Correcting Children’s Behavior
Rapper Okyeame Kwame, who is a father of two, holds a different perspective on parenting compared to those who believe in corporal punishment. In many African societies, the phrase “spare the rod, spoil the child” guides parents who resort to physical discipline to correct their children’s behavior. However, Okyeame Kwame sees corporal punishment as a violent act and does not support it.
During an interview on Joy Prime’s morning show, the rapper expressed his belief that beating children is barbaric and violent. Instead of using physical force, he has developed his own approach to training and correcting his children, which he calls the “role modalism” strategy. He believes that children are quick to emulate the behaviors of older individuals, so he sets an example for his children to follow.
Okyeame Kwame explained that he uses the concept of mirror neurons, wherein he demonstrates the desired behaviors himself. For instance, if he wants his children to respect women, he ensures he respects his wife. If he wants them to eat healthily, he adopts a healthy eating pattern himself. By acting as a positive role model, he encourages his children to imitate his actions.
In addition to being against corporal punishment, the rapper also disapproves of shouting at children. He believes in granting his children the freedom to live and develop independently, without invading their privacy. Although he does not pamper them, he employs his role modalism strategy to guide and correct their behavior.
Despite experiencing fear during his children’s pregnancies, being a father has been a great and rewarding experience for Okyeame Kwame. Through his non-violent approach to parenting, he strives to raise well-behaved and independent children.